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By far the most common thing my clients struggle with is self-criticism. Almost everyone I have worked with has shared a common experience of fearing something like: “There is something inherently wrong with me.” OR “If people really knew me, they wouldn’t love me.” OR “I should be different in some important way(s).” And yet, despite having worked with hundreds …
(Disclaimer: This post is in reference to politics. Sorry not sorry. Read or ignore. Feel free to talk with me about it when you see me if you love or hate anything I say.) It’s times like this that force us to use all our skills to hang in. Some people check out, some get obsessed and hypervigilant, and most …
(Hi again! I’m excited to have a new website and a renewed dedication to writing an occasional blog! Please check out my website if you are interested and heads up that you can visit my Virtual “Office” right from the site.) The concept of “rebranding” in marketing and business is well-known. The definition I find online is to: “change the …
Hello! It’s been so long since I’ve written. It’s been weighing on me that my last post is over a year old. But, as I’m sure you can relate, we’ve all been through a lot! I’m not going to start off with a long post, though I CAN say I have one coming about Ted Lasso that you should read. …
Do you feel and believe that you are good enough? If I had to pick one issue I see the most in my practice, it’s self-criticalness. As opposed to narcissism where a person is defended against seeing any faults in themself, self-criticalness is like fault-finding on steroids. So let’s break it down a little bit. What’s your measure of good …
My friends at Birth Roots, the local birth and parenting resource center, recently posted this quote from Beth Berry on their instagram: The fact that you’re struggling to enjoy motherhood has less to do with you than it does the inadequate support structures in the culture surrounding you. This is an important quote that applies not only to motherhood–but to …
I often write about myths our culture perpetuates in relationships and this blog’s title sums up one I’ve been thinking about recently: We’ve all heard people say something to the effect of: “You should never try to change someone…you should love them for who they are.” I recognize that my argument is partly a matter of semantics. I get it—there’s …
How often do you update your operating system? Probably about as often as you have a chance. Fix the bugs and all that… Wouldn’t it be nice if we could get an updated version of the gray matter between your ears? I mean, as it is, it’s pretty fabulous in SO many ways, but the biggest “bug” I see is …
I work with lots of folks on how to take good care of themselves…how to listen to their own needs and set boundaries that work for them. One challenge that comes up a lot is that, in social situations, conversation can move so quickly that it becomes really hard to be able to: Pause. Sense your reaction to the request …
(This post was first published at the Huffington Post) I planned to tell my now-husband that it wasn’t going to work out on our third date. He was very sweet, respectful and handsome but my internal voice suggested we weren’t compatible enough. He was in sales; I was studying to be a therapist. We had different views on religion. With …
